This is Gift #2 in my series “Gifts From Mom”
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As you can see, it has been several months since I have written anything in this series. I knew when I started I wouldn’t have long before Mom was no longer here, but I just didn’t realize how short that time would be.
On January 4, 2014 Mom went home so that she could once again sing and wear her bling. Although she is no longer with us physically there are still so many different ways she continues to influence our lives.
So in honor of Mom…
Mom was the Queen of Bling, before anyone ever knew to call it bling!
She had rhinestones on everything…earrings, glasses, shirts, shoes…if she could bedazzle it, she did!
I would have to say though her true love was jewelry. Not only did it have to sparkle, but it needed to be BIG and BLINGY! She was the only person I knew who could carry that kind of stuff off and not look ridiculous. When she was finished styling herself – she was absolutely beautiful. In a big and bold, sophisticated sort of way.
I can remember as a young adult trying to pull off some of the same styles but found myself looking utterly ridiculous and feeling very self-conscious wearing such loud pieces. I just felt so uncomfortable with my jewelry entering the room before I even got to the door!
I can remember one day Mom putting on some huge earrings and me asking her how she could wear them without feeling awkward. She continued to look in the mirror and simply stated, “You can’t be afraid to sparkle.” It was such a matter-of-fact statement it caught me off guard. As I looked up at her she continued by telling me confidence in yourself is the key to wearing the jewelry. Without it, the jewelry would wear you and become the focal point. With it, the jewelry only added the finishing touches to a beautiful outfit.
Although my mom didn’t engage in extensively deep conversations, she could bring a point home and not even realize it. Her statement about confidence was spot on. From that day forward I saw my mom in a completely different light. She exuded confidence and was very comfortable with who she was. She became an inspiration for me to find my place of comfort and confidence for/in myself.
As time would have it, Mom eventually had to downsize but she refused to get rid of any jewelry; so we boxed everything up and put it away for her. I loved how she looked intently and lovingly at every piece we boxed and retraced the memory of where it had come from and what outfit she enjoyed wearing it with. She also fondly recalled how many times little hands had dug through her jewelry drawers and played with it all.
Recently, I pulled down the box and wondered what I was going to do with it. I couldn’t bear to wear it, but I couldn’t let it go either. (I am the least sentimental of my siblings so I was a little shocked about that!) Then Gift #1 kicked in and this is what I ended up with…
Here is one of my favorite scriptures on confidence…Philippians 1:6,
“being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”